Yesterday we got a call to say that our friend Rob Maisch, author of
Confessions of a Cereal Eater! and librarian at the Akron Summit County Public Library, had died.
Last weekend, my friend Ruth turned 30. Ruth and I have been friends since age 12, despite the fact that during the early years of our friendship she once actually
bit me and later ran me over with her bike (then blamed it on
me).
So for her birthday I indulged her by whiling away an hour on the balcony of the West Side Market reminiscing about all the terrible things I'd done to
her, like chicken out on our 11th grade trip to France.
I realized then that if I had gone to France,
the entire trajectory of my life would have changed. No kidding. It was a very sobering moment that depressed me all week.
But now I am enormously glad I didn't go to France because
meeting Rob was one of those things I would've missed out on.
I met Rob in 2001 when we both started library school at Kent State. My first impression of a grizzled unsmiling codger with a chip on his shoulder the size of Massachusetts soon gave way to a grizzled unsmiling codger with a chip on his shoulder the size of Massachusetts and a heart of gold. And a head full of fascinating stories. I practically sat at his feet with my jaw hanging open.
We all did.
There are three main things I learned from Rob:
1. Don't take life too seriously.
2. Getting older doesn't make you insufferably dull.
3. Look for the storyteller in the crowd. Because he has amazing things to teach you.
Late last night I was rooting around in a box of old photos for a good one of Rob, something that I could post here, but I was stymied in my attempt to find one that didn't contain a rude hand gesture. There was even a couple of priceless, un-PC shots taken in front of the
short bus.
(As I'm writing this, I'm recalling that it was Rob who spotted the short bus parked in front of Luigi's, scampering over to it in the way that paunchy middle-aged men usually don't, gleefully shouting, "All right! It's the short bus!
Who's got the camera?")
Rob looked at my life through the long lens of experience and without knowing much about me at all, could tell me exactly what (and who) I did and didn't need in my life.
Rob always wanted to hang out with us twentysomethings, the so-called Two-Fisted Librarians Gang who drank cheap beer in the Rathskeller while kvetching about MARC records.
Maybe we kept him young. Maybe he made us wise.
When Lyra Belacqua puts an end to Death in
The Amber Spyglass, she makes a deal with the Harpies who have tortured the souls of the dead for untold ages. In order to go on to the next world, the recently-departed will have to tell stories to the Harpies. True stories, from their real lives. In other words, they've got to live, and not waste their time on Earth.
Rob had an amazing gift for those type of stories. I can only hope to be half the storyteller he ever was.